So I finished the book.
It makes me look at all my life choices, the fact that I blacked out when trying to take care of a toddler, the fact that he sees me sleeping because I’m in a stupor, the fact that he’s learning life lessons from an alcoholic. The fact that I’m being a terrible mom.
But it’s not that I’m terrible all the time. Alcohol has played an important part in my life. It gave me courage to fight, words were said that I don’t know if I meant. Nights getting home when I don’t know how it happened.
Sarah Hepola taught me that alcohol didn’t make me better, it didn’t make me funnier, it didn’t make me stronger. It made me the topic of conversation.
Do you remember what you did last night?
Don’t you remember taking of your shirt like we were in private?
Do you remember how you got to bed?
Do you remember how you got home?
How did I end up naked? Where did my clothes go?
What happened?
As much as I wanted to piece together the stories I couldn’t. I have no recollection of those times and never will. And it’s scary.
There will ALWAYS be another excuse as why today wasn’t a good day to quit smoking, today wasn’t a good day to quit drinking. Just one more.
But one more doesn’t have an end. So I need to just put on my big girl panties and suck it up.
Will quitting my vices be hard? YES
Will I struggle on a regular basis? YES
Will I eventually love my life and myself once again? HELL YEAH!
But this journey is not going to be easy. It’s going to suck. But financially, emotionally, and physically my life and that of my husband and my son will benefit from me being sober.
I always say, tomorrow I will be a Christian and not smoke or drink. But tomorrow is always the next day. But you know what. You just have to do it because there will always be an excuse, always be a reason to fail.
And failing is NOT an option.
I will succeed. I will overcome the addition I have to things that are ruining my life and killing me at the same time.
I WILL PREVAIL.